No one is perfect, but for most of us carry the erroneous notion that the people we hold in high esteem are free of faults. Many of our personal heroes are selfless, driven and virtuous− or so we think. The immaculate image embossed in our minds is often far from reality. Our senses fail us most of the time, muddling our perception and sense of judgment.
However we try to shun the reality, our idols cannot ever be possibly perfect. Hot actors we drool over for their macho image may secretly shudder at the sight of spiders and frogs, while models with looks to die for may look hideous in the morning. The same goes for our parents, teachers and mentors who have done outrageous things in the past that I would rather not speak of.
Still, there remains a deep sense of loss in the back of our minds when we realize that our heroes are not all that we crack them to be. The long list of their indispensable traits and noteworthy accomplishments, as well as the perfect image we have formed in our minds, becomes momentarily pale when we encounter a bump that shatters our high expectations in these people.
It is natural to feel powerless after having discovered so disturbing a fact. Our universe centered around a certain (seemingly honorable but not really) human deity our may stop for a while, but we know that this we must outgrow this phase and return to the daily order of things if we are to keep our sanity.
When we encounter this bump, what do we do next?
Three choices:
i) Turn a blind eye to the flaw (i.e., keep our mouths shut and pretend we are unaware of the things we wish we didn’t have to know)
ii) Find another idol
iii) Confront the person and talk to him/her about it (only applicable if the person is someone we know personally)
Or more appropriately, what should I do next?
"...to forgive is divine."
"...to forgive is divine."
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